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Thursday, December 31, 2009
1. Regular to blogging. To write on everything I feel affects me in good or bad way.
2. Dare to live and achieve what is needed. Its important to take risks.
3. Live up to my own standards and believe in my own strenghts.
4. Smile more and practice to be happy for myself more than others.
5. Follow the 4 points above.
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
Self explanatory.
42. The best is yet to come.
Wake up everyday to new hopes and new dreams. The best of things are just a little away than we usually reach out to grab. Never give up on hopes.
Its in us and depends on us how we feel and how we react. The change of environment is the best solution to it. So show up whereever you need to be for that makes a lot of difference to what and how you feel.
Give back.. we owe everything to someone or something. Be thankful always.
Life is not always easy. It might be for some people for sometime. But never for everyone all the time. Its just the matter of time. So treat life as a gift. There is surprise hidden in every moment. Smile and open. Life smiles back at you if you smile first. Its a mirror image. Be at your best and life offers you the best in itself.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
Live life to the fullest. One life and one chance... take it or leave it.
Gift your child the best childhood they can ever have. Like I siad, one life, one chance, take it or leave it.
It doesn't matter how much you were hurt or the measure of how much you really gained or lost. All that matters is that you loved and how much you enjoyed doing that. expect little or nothing.
39. Get outside everyday. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
Open your eyes to a beautiful world everyday. Expect miracles and happiness. One will always find hope waiting for you at the door. All we need to do is welcome it whole heartedly.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we would grab ours back.
Show me one person who doesn't have problems. One person who can claim to succeed everytime and everywhere. God gives us only how much we can bear. He teaches us lessons just tough enough to make us tougher. Nothing more and nothing less. Its all par with what and how he created you. Believe that we can live upto his expectations.
Monday, December 28, 2009
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
Nothing is permanent. Even the change will change. The patterns, the order and even the content for the change will change. The irnoy is we either welcome the change or completely oppose the change but does it make any difference atall. Life goes on as usual. Nothing ever matters more than we make it matter.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
This is something I learnt this year. To let go myself. I am also entitled for the pleasures of this universe. Noone is serious about me and what I need. Then why not let go and live life. Afterall at the end all that matters if if you are really happy.
Well, this is something I am teaching myself to believe in. I am not sure how far I have reached but I have started. Like I said, most of it are in the head. We need to believe for something to happen. It might not really happen but atleast we will be happy that we tried to believe in the happening. Thoughts are things which makes us happy in more ways than we think.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
God loves me. I truly believe in this. God loves me for who I am. And from my side I will be what he wants me to be. I am special to him and I will do my best to believe in his plans for me.
There is nothing to be gained by taking the audit of what is lost and what is gained. We all have pur shares of profits and losses. All that matters is how you deal with them. And at the end, the power lies within ourself to deal with each of them. Most of the times we fail to recognise the power within us. Lucky are those who can see within oneself.
Sunday, December 27, 2009
26. Frame every so called disaster with these words “In five years, will this matter?”
Well 2009 was a year of disasters in terms of my personal life. But answering that question to myself I feel nothing really matters not five years down the line but even few days. We might continue thinking of them and feeling bitter but nothing ever matters more than we think and make it matter.
27. Always choose life. Choose to choose life rather than giving up. Thinking back if I had to give up and call it quits, I could have done it everytime and so often that I would have had only time to gather the regrets. But I think somehow life steered its way for me to life.
Tough one to practice in reality. But if you can, you can succeed to be happy. Carrying grudges and anger just makes your journey tougher. leave the baggage of grudges away. It helps..
Live like you don't care. You are what you are. No matter what people think you are special and unique.
I am sure we all believe in this one. But what we don't do is to give time. Time also needs the time to work on the healing.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
Every day of our life is special. No matter what the future holds we still can live only in today. Worry doesn't do us any good but just snatches the happiness of the today too.
22. Over prepare, and then go with the flow.
This is something which I need to learn and practice too. I am too much a planning person and get terribly upset when the plans don't work out that way. But then it so happens that most of the times, things never move the way you planned and on the spots plans work the best. :)
Be Happy and at the best always..
Very true. The likes and dislikes is in our heads. Its what we think that we act upon. Your head likes something and automatically you find your body and senses responding to it. Your head says no and there everything else stops there. Brain is the organ or the senses we need to keep a check on.
To be happy or not be happy depends on each of us. Its just that most us just hand the control to people, things and circumstances around us and sit back watch the show. Take charge. Its ok to be selfish to be happy.
Friday, December 25, 2009
The next 5 for the Christmas Day.. Merry Christmas to all of you..
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
This seriously helps. Especially when you are really angry and want to say something real bad. :). Have tried. It works. Will try it more often.
17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
Anything which doesn't bring any joy is useless. Wether they are people, situations or even things. I intend to throw of few USELESS people in 2010. LOL. We need to work towards making us happy. Noone else cares if we are happy or not.
18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.
Everyday is a new challenge. This cycle nevr ends. We all hope for one day on which we don't have to really struggle it out. But everyday goves us new lessons, new challenges and new ways to cope up with them too. God doesn't give us more than we can deal with nor does he give us any less. He just gives us the right dose so that we become stronger. And the least he expects from us is that we give the best shot. So when the expectations are set right why not become stronger each day rather than not even trying to give them a try.
We all have had childhoods. Some of us still have dreams left unfulfilled. This year my daughter turned 1. Everyday of mine with her is my second childhood. I try to do things for her which I somehow lacked somewhere. Its up to me to enjoy the moments. And why miss the chance because not only its my second childhood but the first one for my daughter too. Tomorrow she must not have many unfulfilled things to carry to her second childhood. :)
20. When it comes to go after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.
This is about will power. We all have strengths within us. Its just that few give up easily. Few hold on for a little long. And its those who hold on for a little long are the ones who are successful. Its them who follow their dreams and work towards achieving them. I have mine in place. And I will not leave any stone unturned to reach there. This is what I am carrying to 2010.
Thursday, December 24, 2009
The next 5 learnings...
For many of us, including me its very difficult to get over anything that happened in my past. Be it good experiences or bad ones. We keep brooding over them, set expectations based on them and just don't let go them from our heads. What does it all lead to that way? It all leads to misery and leaves us hurt as always. Its very important to step out of the past and enter into the present with a peaceful mind. The past hold no value, the future is of lesser value, what matters the most is the present. I will try to practice this in 2010 more effectively. We have to learn to accept the changes and learn to move on.
12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.
I am not a very experienced mother. But during the last year I have seen and learnt this that no matter how young your child is, they truly understand our moods. They might not know the reason but they sure sense the ups & downs. There have been days when I was so down that I have hugged my 1 yr old daughter and cried and all she did was hug me back till I was ok. And that's what i learnt. Its ok if my chold sees me when I am weak also. One of the lessons of parenthood.
One of the truths about life lies in this sentence. We all look at others and think that we lack what they have or that in someway they are more blessed and luckier than us. But when we take a look into their life is when we realise that everyone has their share of hardships, its just the order of the hardships that differ. The grass always seems greener on the other side of the river because we see the long view and not the closer and careful view. What happens is that we look into others life to find things which we lack. In that we fail to look into things which they lack. And we feel they are more blessed and luckier than us.
Self explanatory.... :)
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.
Its just a statement which means 'Trust in the Almighty'. He will never let you down or leave you in want.
Wednesday, December 23, 2009
So here comes the next 5 lessons from 2009..
When we argue or fight each of us want to win. Its easier said than done. I know. But still this is a lesson. We can keep this in mind when we feel so beaten if we feel we didn't score well in the argument. No two persons can agree on everything. A fact we all know but tough to accept. We dream of our spouses, sibblings, children, friends etc etc to agree on everything. Isn't it so good to imagine such a perfect combination. :). But there also lies a fact that its these disagreements and differences which makes each of us unique. And its really ok that we don't have a perfect world of people or things or situations. Its within these imperfections that there lies a perfect life. Its just within our head to remember this each time we come across something we don't approve of. Like I said, this is something we all know, but its easier said than done. We can still try. I did, I am and I will in 2010 also.
7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.
Thinking of crying, how many times in the past year I felt so miserable for things happening to me and around me which affected in some way. Few of the occassions I found people lending me a shoulder to cry on and on a few occassions I became the shoulders they would lean on. I am thankful to each of them who stood by me, heard me and consoled me and for the other friends, I am there for you. Reach out when you need me. I truly believe that the one's who stand by you in your worst of days are the ones you must keep in life for they are the real gems you are gifted with. Oprah once said, " Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.". Its so true. And I think we must show appreciation to such people in whichever ways its possible.
One of teacher once asked me while we were in school that how many of us pray before an exam that the exam must be easy for everyone of them in the class. I then realised, that yes we all pray for ourselves only. And after this fact hit me, believe me or not, I prayed before every exam that the exam must be easy for each one of us appearing, or the least of it all of us must pass. :). Somehow it made me happy then and today. The teacher who taught me this fact is etched in my memory. And I think God hears us when we are less selfish. And the amount of disappoinments we face all has a meaning. Atleast I try to belive in that. At the end all turns out to be for the good. I do get angry with God but its because of him is what I am today. So I still hold the faith. :). I am glad I do..
This is a very important lesson. I was trying to do it from the day I started working. But finally this year I was able to start. I plan to continue.
Chocolates... mmm..ahhh.. mouth watering. Do not resist. And having chocolates also boosts your mood. So why not. Well for the weight concious ones... can't help..keep resisting. As for me, I am the least concious about that. :)))
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
As 2009 is nearing its end. I am just taking time to think of the lessons I learnt during this year. Its also time to make resolutions for the coming year but now its time for this rewinding.
1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.
I know life always doesn't throw us fair choices or solutions. But we are here for a purpose. A purpose which has deeper meaning than we can think of. I am a firm believer of God. So I believe everything happens for a reason and all that happens has something hidden for us. It could be a message, a lesson to be learnt or an opportunity. Its just in us to observe and grasp all that we can. This past year gave me many things to learn in terms of my life, both professional and personal. This past year I had the blessing to work from home and to take care of my little one. It was a real blessing. I did miss office and the gossips and coffee breaks but then its still good to be home and working and yet having your baby in front of your eyes. For all that we get we need to pay a price. Nothing comes free here. Its just us to weigh if the price we pay is worth it. For me it sure was.
I think we all have moments when we are doubtful of what the next step must be. Be it in terms of our personal life, in daily chores, and in bigger things like the direction of life we are leading. But then the very fact is that the answers to all that lies right before our eyes and yet we fail to see them, understand them. The reason is we are so much blinded by the doubt that our senses stops responding and we tend to stand still. One of my friend once told me this, " when in doubt, or when you want to take a big decision, sleep over it for 2 days. The delay is worth it and it sure clears the blocks. " I tried this say a 'n' number of times this year and trust me it helped. I tried this for the personal challenges I faced, for the important decisions regarding my career and I am here alive. It sure helps. Try it. A few small steps taken sometimes helps towards the successful long journey ahead.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
This is something we learn from parents and teachers wheile we are very young but many of us fail to practice it. This year there were many people who came into my life, new ones, old ones reconnecting. They hurt me, were good to me, few reacted and acted in ways which was tough for me to forgive but then looking back now I feel each of them were correct in their own ways. They had reasons to behave or act that way. And the time I spent sulking hating them was the time I lost to enjoy myself in whatever I could do during that time. The moments lost never comes back, so why waste your time hating people for no matter what they have done, we can still get over them and go on. I learnt this lesson. I will try to follow this everytime I start to sulk next year.
4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
Many of us have this wonderful jobs, a career to grow in but how many of us actually thought of this. When we are really sick our job provides for us but then they dont come and sit with us to say that you will get well soon. Your boss needs you back to work ASAP and will tell you to get well soon. But your family, say your child, husband and friends will say that to really see you back in your good health and mood. It doesn't matter what sort of salary or job you have. What matters is that they do and show such small gestures which really makes you feel special and wanted. And friends are like pearls. Good ones are rare to find. But finding is not the end of things. It means more to keep them. Staying in touch with them inspite of the busy lives we have is what adds that extra care factor to the entire thing. I will or promise to treasure my friends always. And a extra thanks to all my friends who helped me in their own small ways to make me feel wanted.
Credit cards... do not have them if yoi cannot manage them. I stopped using my credit card because I started spending more when I swipe the card. :). I promise to continue that in the following year. And another lesson, pay off all your bills on time, elevctricity, mobile, internet etc etc. On time is always better :))
Monday, December 21, 2009
My dad used to say "Plan Ahead". This used to be sort of a punch line during the years of my growing up. I think I am sort of into this statement. I try to plan ahead but many a times plans fail and I end up going with the flow. Now I don't know if I am a bad planner or if the circumstances make my plans fail. :)
Well whatever is the reason, today I am having a grand plan :). I am going to start writting posts about my learning from 2009 starting tomorrow for the next 9 days (5 each day) and on the 10th day, the eve of the new year 2010 I will post my new year resolutions for 2010.
Anyone else wants to follow the trend, feel free and join me here.
Ok, I knew I had to come back to this. But I was just putting it off each day not because I didnt have things to write about or vent it out. Its just that I was being lazy. So finally when I had to come back I had to come back with a change in look, a make over and a promise that I would be regular here from now on. So the makeover I have given to my blog is the new template. I just managed to fit in everything here. I need to know your opinions on how it looks now. And as far as being regular is concerned, I promise to do my best :)
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